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New Moon, Fresh Start

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The new moon for March arrived this morning at 8:04 PDT and with it the rain and wind. Cuddled up beneath a blanket, my monthly mantra of “New moon, fresh start” began echoing through my mind. This simple mantra reminds me that with each new moon all things begin anew and that anything is possible.

Every new moon cycle I grab my pen and pad and sit down to take stock of what did or didn’t work for me in the last month. Is that diet and exercise plan actually working or do I need to step it up a notch? Those intentions that I set last new moon, were they fulfilled or were they unreasonable? What can I do with this new moon, fresh start?

This list aids me in planning and setting goals and intentions for the upcoming lunar cycle. (And, let’s face it, lists make my little Virgo heart happy.) As I examine each goal and intention I look at whether or not it came to fruition during the month. and if it didn’t, why.

Then I think “There I go again, making lists and analyzing everything.” I’m rehashing the same thing I’ve done every month. If this is a new moon, a fresh start, then perhaps it is time for me to try something different. Time to release the hold on my control issues.

Lists, lists, and more lists are a control mechanism for me, I see that now. They are a way to schedule every single moment of my life, in some way, shape, or form. But these lists, these schedules have become too reminiscent of the reasons I detested going off to work everyday. The rules, the regulations, the strict order, It began to affect my health, my sanity. Now, I am perpetuating those things that I sought to be rid of. I’m beginning to lose a chunk of that freedom I so greatly desired.

Making a Fresh Start

Recognizing a need for change is just the first step for me. I’ve years and years of ingrained behaviors to work through. Yes, I will still be making goals and setting intentions, but I am going to cut myself some slack in meeting those goals. My entire point in retiring was to finally have some freedom, to not be bound by restrictive rules and time schedules. Yet I live in fear of becoming lazy and complacent. What’s a girl to do?

If I am completely honest with myself and wish to make a fresh start then I will have to come to terms with the fact that I like structure. Order, structure and goals are important to me. However, making myself crazy and becoming upset because my schedule is being interrupted or I feel my self-discipline is slipping, isn’t healthy behavior. It is going to be work finding this happy median. But it is necessary if I wish to remain productive yet not restricted, scheduled, but accommodating.

The best thing about a fresh start, in regaining some of my freedom, is that I can still set all the goals I want. When I build in some flexibility to my schedule and my deadlines I can still feel free without sacrificing my need for order and discipline. I can be my old productive self, just a better, more relaxed version of it.

Making lists can now be a part of my creative process instead of an instrument of restriction. I shall use them as guidelines, as ideas of what could be, not what has to be. Since lists make my Virgo brain happy, I’ll continue the process, but release my hold on how long it may take for those ideas to manifest.

New Moon Intentions

This new moon, I’m setting my intention to allow myself freedom. Freedom from my own restrictions, from the rigidness I’ve placed upon myself. A new moon, a fresh start, begins today, this very moment. I won’t let this opportunity get away, and neither should you. Set your own intentions towards freedom today as well. Let this new moon bring you a fresh start, a new beginning to a fabulous life.

Blessed Be!



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Staying Productive Amidst the Chaos

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Chaos is not something that most of us appreciate. Being a Virgo I relish my peace and quiet. I thrive on schedules, lists, routine, and more lists. But every once in a while the Universe chucks a curve ball at me and I have to figure out how I will be staying productive amidst the chaos.

As I am sitting in my office, tapping away at the keyboard, there is chaos all around me. Roofers have descended upon my little house and are currently ripping the crap out of the old roof. Shingles are flying and crashing, dust and debris is everywhere. And the noise! Between the crashes and bangs, the dog whining and the clanging of the metal ladders, I’m already spent and they’ve not been here two hours. My anxiety is through the now non-existent roof. So how am I staying productive amidst the chaos? Sheer will my friends, sheer will.

Just a taste of the chaos and debris surrounding my house today.

I’m staying productive amidst the chaos by flexing my will. Our will is what pushes us, reminds us of our purpose, our goals. The will is our stick-to-it-ivness, our tenacity and our drive. By flexing my will, making it work for and not against me, I am writing this article instead of binge watching Netflix with the volume at full blast. Even though I may be continually distracted by the debris falling past my window, I keep typing. Is it easy? Hell no. But it is happening because of my Will.

Flexing your Will to Stay Productive

How can you flex your will to stay, or increase your productivity even amidst a chaotic day? Always keep your end game, your goal, in the forefront of your thoughts. Perhaps your goal for the day is to paint the bedroom. You’ve got your tools in hand, the furniture has been moved and the tarps are down. Then bam! The cat throws up on the recliner, you forgot to turn off the coffee maker and now burnt coffee smell permeates the air. The school nurse calls and asks you to pick up your child because he threw up in the classroom (I sense a theme here). Down goes the paintbrush and out you go (after turning off that dang coffee maker).

This could be the end of your grand plan to paint. But remember, we are flexing our will here. We are staying productive amidst the chaos. Our game plan may have changed but we can get back on track. So, pick up your child and set them up on the couch with some saltines and ginger ale and a bucket, just in case. Clean up the cat barf off the recliner and put some vinegar in the crusty, burnt coffee pot. Then march right back in and pick up where you left off. Flex that will!

Sometimes the Chaos Wins

Okay, I will admit it. The above scenario would make most people throw in the towel. Re-scheduling and flexing our will takes practice and, quite frankly, it doesn’t always work. Sometimes the chaos wins, but that’s all right. The key in these instances is not to beat yourself up because things didn’t get done. Allow yourself to regroup, then reschedule. Maybe you are only able to complete a portion of what you had planned. If things are crumbling and chaotic around you but you were able to tape off the trim in preparation of painting, then you were staying productive amidst the chaos. Yes, it wasn’t everything you’d envisioned, but it was something. Give yourself a pat on the back for getting anything done amidst a barf-a-palooza.

Above all, just keep trying, keep your focus, and remember that this too shall pass. Tomorrow is another day and another chance to flex our wills. Staying productive amidst the chaos isn’t easy and sometimes it’s downright impossible. If chaos wins today, we can kick its butt tomorrow.

What’s this? Blessed quiet, for the moment. The chaos has diminished, a welcome breather for which I am most grateful. When lunch break is over, the chaos will again commence. But I will keep focused, flex my will, and keep staying productive amidst the chaos. After all, I need to keep my little Virgo soul happy and check something off my list. Today, chaos does not win!

Blessed Be!

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The Sticky Note Dichotomy

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I had a very interesting conversation with a co-worker the other day.  We were talking about all the changes that were taking place our the office and how it made her feel like things were out of control.  I mentioned that I have a sticky note on my monitor that says, “Relax, nothing is under control”  and how it helped me sometimes when the general craziness of an ever changing environment starts to get to me. Then bam! I had something click so loudly in my brain that I wondered if it echoed down the hallways.  I took a step back, commenced a hard mental assessment of the statement, “nothing is under control”, and metaphorical bells went off.

I am a witch.  By definition we bend, we shape, we manifest change. We take those things that are seemingly out of our control and through our will we mold it into what we want or need in order to control our environment. While the general populace is constantly being bombarded with self-help gurus and social media telling them to just go with the flow and not worry about those things that are “out of their control”, we the Witches, the Wizards, the magickal folk, are instead in the shadows creating change and making life flow in the direction of our choosing.  By having placed that little yellow note in my constant line of sight I had created the perfect personal dichotomy.  On the one hand as a Witch I create change on a daily basis.  On the other, I am in a mundane work environment where I have no say in the changes happening around me so I need to just relax and go with the flow ( if I wish to keep my job).  As you can imagine, this revelation did not sit well with me.

I guess you could consider me a bit of a control freak.  Hello! Virgo and a Witch. My entire existence revolves around keeping things organized and under some sort of control.  Imagining that somehow, for some strange reason I seemed to be relinquishing that control by following the advice written on a tiny piece of paper really got my hackles up.  This wasn’t really me.  Was I changing myself to fit my job or was my job changing me? The control freak in me was scrambling to find a foothold on a crumbling cliff.

A few breaths later and the practical Virgo found her footing and started shooting spit wads of wisdom at me.  “Remember,” she said. “There are just some things you can’t or shouldn’t try to control or change either because of personal ethics or possible negative consequences.”  As an example,  I can’t change my boss’s personality, but I can work to sweeten her attitude towards me.  I shouldn’t try to control the weather, one, because I am a novice weather witch and two, because moving that storm away from my house could possibly cause unforeseeable and/or harmful consequences.  Ok, for those things, I could give the control freak a much needed vacation and perhaps relax, a bit.

As for all those other instances in life when I am told to relax, it’s out of my control, guess what?  I am going to mold, shape, and manifest any changes I feel will enhance the quality of my life and the life of my family and friends. I will do so with all the skills I possess and will relax knowing that this Witch is doing what she can to make this life a great one.  I will continue to do this even at work, where positive change is so desperately needed.

Oh, and come first thing Monday morning I will be wadding up and chucking that sticky note in the trash.

Blessed Be!