I had a very interesting conversation with a co-worker the other day. We were talking about all the changes that were taking place our the office and how it made her feel like things were out of control. I mentioned that I have a sticky note on my monitor that says, “Relax, nothing is under control” and how it helped me sometimes when the general craziness of an ever changing environment starts to get to me. Then bam! I had something click so loudly in my brain that I wondered if it echoed down the hallways. I took a step back, commenced a hard mental assessment of the statement, “nothing is under control”, and metaphorical bells went off.
I am a witch. By definition we bend, we shape, we manifest change. We take those things that are seemingly out of our control and through our will we mold it into what we want or need in order to control our environment. While the general populace is constantly being bombarded with self-help gurus and social media telling them to just go with the flow and not worry about those things that are “out of their control”, we the Witches, the Wizards, the magickal folk, are instead in the shadows creating change and making life flow in the direction of our choosing. By having placed that little yellow note in my constant line of sight I had created the perfect personal dichotomy. On the one hand as a Witch I create change on a daily basis. On the other, I am in a mundane work environment where I have no say in the changes happening around me so I need to just relax and go with the flow ( if I wish to keep my job). As you can imagine, this revelation did not sit well with me.
I guess you could consider me a bit of a control freak. Hello! Virgo and a Witch. My entire existence revolves around keeping things organized and under some sort of control. Imagining that somehow, for some strange reason I seemed to be relinquishing that control by following the advice written on a tiny piece of paper really got my hackles up. This wasn’t really me. Was I changing myself to fit my job or was my job changing me? The control freak in me was scrambling to find a foothold on a crumbling cliff.
A few breaths later and the practical Virgo found her footing and started shooting spit wads of wisdom at me. “Remember,” she said. “There are just some things you can’t or shouldn’t try to control or change either because of personal ethics or possible negative consequences.” As an example, I can’t change my boss’s personality, but I can work to sweeten her attitude towards me. I shouldn’t try to control the weather, one, because I am a novice weather witch and two, because moving that storm away from my house could possibly cause unforeseeable and/or harmful consequences. Ok, for those things, I could give the control freak a much needed vacation and perhaps relax, a bit.
As for all those other instances in life when I am told to relax, it’s out of my control, guess what? I am going to mold, shape, and manifest any changes I feel will enhance the quality of my life and the life of my family and friends. I will do so with all the skills I possess and will relax knowing that this Witch is doing what she can to make this life a great one. I will continue to do this even at work, where positive change is so desperately needed.
Oh, and come first thing Monday morning I will be wadding up and chucking that sticky note in the trash.